There are a variety of self-improvement articles available nowadays. You may be thinking that this is one of those, obviously. What have you got to lose by reading one more self-improvement article?
“Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your Elohim I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
When you come to the 40-year stage in your life, you will suddenly realize many things. You get to ask yourself questions. How will it be when I get to the end of my life? How do I feel about the life I lived? Most people when cross the 40-year threshold, certain fears take over their actions, especially if they have to start over. Imagine yourself 40+ and you lost your business. The feeling of anxiety that you can feel at the moment is just normal, that is how most people feel under similar circumstances. Then you will feel confused because life was good. You were happy, had a successful marriage, children, and a job/business you reasonably enjoyed. What was the problem? You come to realize now that you have lost all that was good in your past life. What do you do?
Do you give up? Do you go on life tormenting yourself about the past successes that you no longer have? Do you become bitter and fill your mind with limiting believes about the “unfairness” of life and that you can’t raise again from this situation? Depending on how you answer these questions, will define the rest of your life.
Here I share with you ten shifts in perspective that can help you overcome this situation:
1. Give yourself permission to dream. You probably had no problem dreaming as a child. What happened to your ability to imagine and dream about what you want and who you want to be? When was the last time you caught yourself daydreaming and appreciated it?
2. Stop looking outside yourself for happiness. Look inside. Increase your self-awareness. Get curious about who you are at the core. Cultivate and nurture a relationship with yourself.
3. Cover the basics. Take the time to address your personal needs. How can you focus on thriving in your life if you are in survival mode? Set up that meeting with a financial advisor, get your space organized, clean up the details that are wasting your energy.
4. Embrace your past and move on. Shift from “why it happened” to what I want to do about it now. Asking “why” is not a very empowering question. Asking what or how I want to proceed is powerful and produce forward movement.
5. Remember that you are not alone. It is easy to feel overwhelmed with life. Seek support at fellowship, family and friends. Read more self-improvement articles and books. They might help you figure about some things that are puzzling you.
6. Count your blessings. What is working right in your life? Make a list. Set aside a bit of time every day to acknowledge what or who you are grateful for. The more you practice gratitude, the more you attract into your life things to be grateful for.
7. Court your passion. You still have your passions though it has been a while since you may have felt it flow. When are you the most alive and joyful in your life? Who do you most admire and what do they inspire in you?
8. Take action and take a risk! All the inspiration in the world is not enough to make you move your life to the next level. It takes inspired action to do that.
9. Keep breathing. You probably forget to take deep full breaths. We have all learned to constrict our breathing in response to stress. According to many self-improvement articles, we not only need oxygen to stay alive, we need oxygen to give us energy and keep us healthy. Right now take 5 deep, full breaths.
10. Have fun. Call a friend, take a bubble bath, take a walk, take yourself to an art museum or schedule a whole day out in nature. Put on some great music and dance till you drop.
And you thought this was just one of those self-improvement articles.