People for the most part are infested by the “worry bug”. This worry bug does not allow them to properly think nor function. Worries fill their hearts with negative thoughts which leads them to stress.
The difference between good/constructive thinking and bad/destructive thinking is, good thinking deals with facts, causes and effects and leads to logical, positive, constructive planning. The opposite is true of destructive thinking which leads to worries, tension and nervous breakdowns. To overcome destructive worries, we must learn to live one day at a time; one task at a time. The push for multi-tasking has accomplished the opposite of what was originally presented, people actually achieve less and become less efficient. Many times not completing any of the tasks on time and building up tension due to the accumulated list of tasks to do.
One of the worst features of worrying is that it destroys the ability to concentrate. This is the reason that it must be taken seriously and dominated quickly; otherwise it will erode in your ability to concentrate. Lack of concentration will lead you to make poor decisions and make mistakes in your projects. In conclusion, we lose the power of decision; something critical when you are facing an obstacle.
The solution to overcome worries is the acceptance of what has happened. To honestly accept what happened based on facts; instead of childishly trying to hide from the truth and falsely hope it will resolve itself and that their decision has no consequence. However, when we face the reality of what has happened, it will provide us the peace of mind we need to face the consequences of the misfortune.
Worries are caused by fear. Fear of loss, fear that we won’t be accepted; fear is what causes worries. We destroy our bodies and minds by anxiety, frustration, hatred, resentment, rebellion and fear. Unfortunately, people are in a constant search to be liked, in that search they are willing to sacrifice their values, even their own identity to conform to what society says that they need to wear, talk, think, etc.
Here are simple steps you can use today to handle stressful/worrisome situations:
1. Analyze the situation fearlessly and honestly, and figure out what is the worst that could happen as a result of this challenge.
2. Reconcile yourself to accept it, if necessary.
3. Calmly devote your time and energy to trying to improve upon the worst which you have already accepted mentally.
There are two times when you should not worry; 1) events that can be corrected, and 2) events that cannot be corrected. When you are facing events that can be corrected, the best use of you time is to take action and make the corrections at once. However, when facing situations that cannot be corrected, worrying will not help you solve the situation, so why worry?